Tell Me That I Matter:
Why Accessible Bathrooms Are So Important

by Rachel George

“Just put me in the bin!”

Those are the most awful words I have ever heard from my child, and those words are really why I am trying to make the world a better place.

rachelgeorge1Adam was almost six years old and had already spent over a month in a cast from his chest to his ankles, with legs spread far apart and a wooden bar between them. He had no independence. He couldn’t roll, he couldn’t sit up, he could not sit in his wheelchair.

The weeks must have felt like forever to him. Having every last shred of his independence taken from him just took too much. My child was sad. I would go so far as to say he was depressed. I never knew that such a young child could feel so low.

It took a year to get him back to good emotional health.

Four years on, he is almost 10 years old, and there is a brand new shadow threatening his emotional wellbeing. A shadow that really doesn’t have an end point. A shadow over which I have no control.

How would you feel about yourself if you were the only person in your group who couldn’t do something? What if that thing was something as simple as using the toilet?

The Impact of Non-Accessible Bathrooms

Would your heart break if you couldn’t have a day trip to the zoo with your friends because you couldn’t stay all day? Would your heart break if you had to leave a restaurant before you finished your main course, just because you needed the toilet, and an accessible one was not available?

Would your heart break if you couldn’t just arrange to join your friends for bowling and a meal because you knew it would end in up with you needing a diaper change and having to leave? Would your heart break if you couldn’t go to the theatre because there were no changing facilities? Would your heart break if you couldn’t go on a shopping trip for the whole afternoon, let alone a whole day, simply because you would need an accessible toilet?

What would happen to your heart if you explained these difficulties to your local cinema, theatre, theme park or shopping center, and the only response was that their toilets met the minimum standard required by law?

How much would you love yourself and value yourself now? Does anyone think you are worth anything?

How much worse would it hurt if this was your child?

MINIMUM STANDARD REQUIRED BY LAW. Does anyone shout out with pride because they have met the minimum standard required? “Yay, our school meets the minimum standard to be allowed to stay open!” “Yes! Our restaurant is a bit grubby and we have lots to improve but we meet the minimum standards to be allowed to serve food!” “Hooray! Crack open the wine, we meet the minimum standards required for ensuring that our ship can sail.”

No. Nobody strives to “just” meet a basic minimum standard.

So if you receive an e-mail from me (or from anyone else) asking about your toilet facilities, please don’t see it as “picking on you.” Don’t see it as people being awkward or difficult. See it as an opportunity to help make the world better. See it as a way to help keep a person going. See it as the right thing to do.

How to Improve Accessible Toilets

Laws in both the US and UK state that reasonable adjustments must be made to make facilities accessible for people with disabilities. However, these laws don’t specifically address the need for changing facilities or the truly accessible facilities that many children require.

Two simple things would make a huge difference. A hoist and an adult-sized changing bench raise standards so much and make it possible for people to live full lives. These would prevent children and adults from needing to be changed on the bathroom floor, which is about as undignified as you can get.

I can’t think of a much greater disadvantage than to be unable to do the most basic of things simply due to a lack of accessible facilities.

Don’t let things stay the same. Don’t let people feel that they are worthless. No person should want to throw himself away.

Author: Rachel George • Date: 9/12/2016

About the Author

Rachel George lives in the UK, and is a mother to two wonderful boys. Her younger son has multiple disabilities and her entire life has changed since he was born.

One of the biggest problems they now face is a lack of properly accessible facilities in public places. Without a hoist she can’t get her son out of his wheelchair. Without a changing bench she can’t switch to his toileting harness before hoisting him to the toilet. So where does that leave him?

She keeps a blog called Ordinary Hopes because that is what all our hopes are—ordinary. Days out, meals out, freedom to go anywhere our friends can go and maybe a trip to Disneyworld one day! Don’t we all hope for such things?

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